I hope all went as well as it could, Boilergirl...it's a hearbreaking situation all around. Your story made me want to scream and cry pretty much at the same time. I know a little about how it feels to see a child unhappy, and want to just yank them out of the situation and fix their hurts. I imagine that's where you are now.

I agree with everyone, this is not your fault. You left a bad situation when you were able to...there's no profit in beating yourself up for not doing it sooner. You did it when you could, that you did it at all shows your strength. Not everybody manages it. And while I would never suggest that babies retain nothing from their early experiences, I imagine the subsequent 10 years have more to do with her current troubles.

I also agree that what she probably needs is to know that you'll listen to her, take anything she has to tell you quietly and seriously, and that you love her no matter what. But truthfully, she may not even know what's wrong or how to tell you. In any case, the idea of having a child on Prozac without some form of ongoing talk therapy is rediculous....if for no other reason than the kid should be monitored. Some of the potential side effects of prozac in kids (restlessness, difficulty sleeping, etc.) could be hurting her school work all by themselves. I hope you do find a way to get her some counseling, it can do anyone a world of good to have an uninvolved adult to talk to if there are family problems.

All of which is a day late and a dollar short, you're already on your way to do what you can. Hope you know that you've got all of us behind you, wishing you strength.

G