Well, we don't have kids, but we have several codes for discussing things sexual around others who don't know we are a couple.
If Leigh wants to tell me she is aroused and wants to make love, she will touch my back and say"Tense?"
Sometimes a special squeeze of my hand.

pretty tame, I know.

WW

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"I wondered, am I a lesbian, am I straight, or bisexual? Then I realized that I am just a slut.
So where's MY parade?"

---Margaret Cho