Knowing what you know now......

[Lovediva]

Would you have become sexually active when you did, or would you have waited?



Why or why not? :D

[dannyk]

While I hate to refuse sex, I would have waited. The best ( and possible right ) person did not come around until later.

Of course, we could always consider the earlier attempts as practice!

[Ironwood]

Neither, actually. I would have started much sooner.

[Quinda]

As I said in the 'first time' thread I would have waited. It would have been four years I'd have waited, but it would have been worth it since I deeply regret getting involved in the relationship I was in.

Then again, there was something good that came out of that relationship, in that I gained the sexual confidence to do some things that my 'one true man' likes :-)

[BlondeCurlGirl]

Seeing as how it wasn't THAT long ago, I still think I had it at the perfect time for myself (18, now I'm 22)...no regrets here, and no wishes to put it off later. I guess I'm one of the lucky ones who knows they had their first experience with the right person.

BCG

[SOULMINER]

Well, I started when I was 12...oh yes, EVERYTHING. And no, I wouldn't trade that "head start" for anything. I think sexual "ability" and creativity come through experience and confidence. 20 years later I'm thankful for everything I've learned and experienced...and my new gf seems to appreciate it too :D

[skipthisone]

I would have started earlier, I was a lousy lay back then, I've learned a few things since....;)

[Uncle Silky]

*shrug* it's just sex.

[south]

Some folks maintain that it isn't how you start but how you finish.
The first time was pretty good, I still remember it but it wasn't the best time and I wouldn't want to do that again! Partly because I don't remember it all.....
hummm... 17ish was about the right time to start for me, It wasn't really about my time, but my time with that girl.

[Sharni]

I'd have waited....and let me tell ya that would have been mighty hard...i was a horny little devil back then *LOL*

I think the main thing would've been the person that was my first experience i'd have changed rather than when the experience happened

[axe31]

it may have been better if i had waited till i had worked
thou my mess on my sexuality

[Lady Tango]

I think it was the right time for me, I just wasn't very good. Thank goodness you learn from your experiences!

[Thinker]

I am still waiting ;)

[Oldfart]

I think the time was right.

Without my mistakes then I'd never have become me.

[dannyk]

I tend to agree, actually, with Oldfart's mindset. Everything we've done in our lives so far, good and bad, have brought us to this point and made us who we are.

[MikeR89]

I would tend to agree with those who would have started earlier...I lost my virginity at the ripe age of 23 - after I had graduated from college and was starting my career... I had a good bit of fun in my college years, but do feel as though I missed out on a few things - albeit scary and nervewracking...

[ericthered]

In all the best stories, the fairy godmother turns up and solves everything. In spite of waiting from the age of - I don't recall - 11,12? - she never appeared. I gathered from my friends that they didn't get visited by the magic lady either.

I am sure that if all the little boys got together and wrote to the President, he could do something with the Fairy Godmothers Union to sort out this terrible neglect. It would earn him a terrific amount of votes if he was still around when they got to be old enough to vote.

[Irish]

ericthered---I didn't have sex with that woman.The Fairy Godmother!(Her name was Monica;wasn't it?) Irish

[Mytaru]

still waiting...but going on a trip to visit a special girl and might not keep waiting...damn hormones, they just won't leave me alone...

~My~

[Goddess]

Well, I waited until I was 23. Ohh..I'm still 23. So, sex is a little new to me, to say the least. However, I wouldn't have waited longer, nor done it sooner. I choose the right time and the guy who seemed right. Even though he and I no longer even talk, I don't regret what I did. I was the one who made the choice. He even asked me, as we were getting pretty busy with petting, etc. what I wanted to do, how far I wanted to go. I told him. We did it. And, it was pretty good. Not anything horrible or anything. I'll always have a good memory of that moment thanks to him..

[Nuelaan]

Yeah I wish I would have waited, I was ready, but I settled for the wrong person. Now I am with the right one 4 years later. She is inexperienced, and I wish (at least a little) that I was too. Truth is though I learned from everything I've done, and if that makes her enjoy are time together more then it was worth it. I REALLY enjoy watching the woman I'm with orgasm.

[Irish]

OF. is right! Irish

[Puck]

I would have still done it. But good odds that I'ld gotten laid more afterwards ( I wasn't very good back then)

[Sugarsprinkles]

This really is a difficult question to answer, at least for me.
Although I do agree with OF, I also think I probably should have waited. Waited till I was at least a year or two older. I was 16 he was 21, I was what was known as 'jailbait' back then:eek:. I definitely should have waited for different circumstances. I babysat for his g/f who became his wife. It was pure hell having to attend their wedding and sit there and act as if I was happy for them:(. I certainly should have turned him away when he came back to me AFTER he married her, but being young, and desperately in love....not to mention raging teenage hormones, I just couldn't do it. And definitely would have NOT had as many partners as I had before getting married. I mean, it wasnt THAT many partners, but certainly too many to be able to say I'm proud of, even here at Pixie's where generally no judgement is passed.

I think maybe I'd better get off my philosophical soapbox now.

[Murphy]

I would have goten alot more....looking back, there were ALOT of girls giving me hints that I just didn't pick up on...oh well, se la gerre

[Devillishgirl]

I have no regrets, the timing was perfect for my first time

[scotzoidman]

Started at 17, and I (thought I) was in LOVE, so I can't say there would be any regrets for not waiting.

[quisath]

I was playing early ...........but penetration occured when I was 17 and she and I were both Virgins. I don't think I would change a thing about that. I am happy with what I know and what I can do.

[dohrt]

I lost my virginity at age 18. It was the right time, I think. I really am glad I didn't have my "first time" with . . . well, if I ever meet her, the woman I spend my life with, LOL.

I am a big believer that sex and love go together, but I'm also a big believer that you should love and lose a few times before you are really able to realize what true love is about, and I guess I feel the same about sex ;)

[vampeyes]

I definitely would have waited.. its not the person or anything just the thought that I could have handled things with that person and many other sexual situations much better if I were a bit more mature. Besides that now that I am a parent the thought of my daughter (or son for that matter) having sex at 12 worries me to death. LOL please let them be more like thier father (he was in his late teens :D )

[six]

I would have waited. Although, it's more the relationship itself that I regret than the sex. But it would have been better to be sexual for the first time in a real caring relationship instead of with an asshole....

[Lorelei]

Originally posted by SOULMINER
Well, I started when I was 12...oh yes, EVERYTHING. And no, I wouldn't trade that "head start" for anything. I think sexual "ability" and creativity come through experience and confidence. 20 years later I'm thankful for everything I've learned and experienced...and my new gf seems to appreciate it too :D

Same here. I was that young too, but I have no regrets, no guilts. Same reasons why. :D