Shackin' Up

[skipthisone]

I ran across this question on some stupid moral email I got the other day (still dont know why I opened it).

Would you let your kids live with someone prior to them getting married??

Its not as taboo as it once was, but that also depends on where you are in the world...but here in the US the studies don't lie and they say it cuts way down on the divorces because people can figure out the true person and get out easier if it doesnt work...but there are still those dead set against it....

Now remember this question isnt about you....its about what you think about it concerning your kids...

[IAKaraokeGirl]

I have absolutely no problem with it, but, then, the older I get, the more liberal I become. There are many, many things I would be dead set against when it comes to my children (drugs, criminal activity, etc.), but to have my son or daughter living with someone he or she feels may be the "right" one is not one of them.

:rolleyes:

[Lilith]

I would encourage them to....

[Aqua]

I think it makes sense to live together for awhile before getting married. You really find out things you might never know until then. There may be things you discover you just can't live with. And I think anything to help cut down the divorce rate is a good thing... as long as you don't ask me to cut my internet connection. :p

[darogle]

I'd almost prefer it. I think a couple needs to know as much as possible before getting married. You don't know what living with someone will be like until you actually do it. Would be dissapointed if they never got married though.

[Incubus255]

It's a definate must! ya just don't really know someone till you live iwth them 24 7 lol thats the real way to see if you can stand each other ^_- hehe

[skipthisone]

Wow, I agree 100% with all you pervs....

[BlondeCurlGirl]

I feel like it should be a natural part of getting older and learning to live with someone... in a lot of ways it isjust like having a roomie in college. But in this case, you learn whether or not you are compatible with your S/O in more practical issues besides the bedroom chemistry.

As long as I wasn't paying the rent, I would have no problem with my future son or daughter living with their S/O.

[Sharni]

As Bilbo and I are 'shacked up' and have been for years...i think it'd be pretty hypocritical of me to have a problem with it *LOL*

Maybe for our 20th anniversary we might actually get married *LMAO* (thats only another 2 years :D)

[PantyFanatic]

Originally posted by BlondeCurlGirl
.....As long as I wasn't paying the rent, I would have no problem with my future son or daughter living with their S/O.
That is the ONLY way I would want it for them. I agree that change in societies attitude (America’s at least) is one of it’s better ones. The thrilling adult relations should be enjoyed but with the realities of the real world. That the benefit!

The sex will happen whether they live together or not. I even would recommend reserving “assistance” to “help” get them settled. It’s not the intimate part of a relationship that normally ends them. It’s the turmoil of dealing with life and how to do it “together” that does.

It’s an education about themselves and each other. Save the “gifts” for the after graduation.

[fzzy]

Here I am again as the dissenting (sp?) voice .. course it's not about allowing when it comes to adults making decisions .... but if I had kids, I'd teach them the same way I was taught. (being 45 with no kids though ... doesn't look like it's much of a threat) :)

And when it comes to reports STO ... you should know by now that you can get a report that says any number of things ... actually the most recent reports I've heard about have said that couples who live together first are less likely to stay together ... so yes, I guess it does mean there are less divorces ... cause there are less marriages.

[BlueSwede]

I'll have to go along w/the majority voice here. I remember even my conservative mother saying to me when she found out that I got married, "Why did you have to marry him? Why couldn't you just live together?!"

[PantyFanatic]

(After writing out the first installment of how I have come to my conclusion regarding parents views on “SHACKING-UP”, I felt it more appropriate to post it on an established thread.)
http://www.pixies-place.com:81/forums/showthread.php?threadid=14146
:eek:

[Ozling]

ive got no problem with my kids doing it, im not married yet and i prolly will live with my future wife before we do get married. so if im going to then my kids get to as well

[Sugarsprinkles]

Well, I guess in some ways it goes against my upbringing to advocate "living together" as opposed to marriage. Another disadvantage of not being married to each other is that if, God forbid, anything should happen to one of the people involved then the remaining partner has no standing. By that I mean they have no say in any medical treatment, cannot inherit any property or death benefits, have no say over the funeral, those sorts of things.The marriage license may only be a piece of paper, but it's a mighty damned important piece of paper.
All that being said, since I currently have two sons living with their S/Os and one who did live with a now ex S/O, it's a moot point.

[Teddy Bear]

I lived with my husband for 1 1/2 years before we got married and truthfully I don't think it helped/hurt our relationship in any way. Because people grow and change. We're both completely different then we were then. We got older, our views/opinions on things changed. In some areas we've grown closer & in others we've grown apart. And this would've happened if we'd lived together or not.

As for my own children I would let them because I guess it would allow them to see if the guy was a complete jerk before getting married. But there are no guarantees with anything in life.

[LixyChick]

*staring at the words skip wrote and thinking.........Did I plug in the rechargable battery pack so my vibe will work this weekend?*

LOL! This is the second thread I've been to this morning and this is the second time I can't add my opinion! (went to dadaist's thread first). I know the rules of baseball and I ain't swinging at these shitty pitches anymore! ROFLMFAO!

I don't have kids so I'm off to find another thread...........though I do have opinions on this......I ain't swinging I tell ya!

[BIBI]

Originally posted by skipthisone
Would you let your kids live with someone prior to them getting married??





I think I will just answer the question and that is very easy!
In reality......how could you stop them?

Both my kids had live in relationships. One ended in marriage and the other just ended.