GF's Ex Bigger Dick, how to deal?

[Still_Dreamin]

hey people

been awhile since i msged, but i thought id get some imput on something im dealing with.

my current girlfriend's ex had a cock that she claims was 8inches long. now, im not a small man, but i aint 8inches, as im sure many other guys out at this site will understand. fact is, im closer to 6.5-7inches, which i know isnt bad or small or anything like that. she says in regular or average, which is fine with her and that she couldnt care less.

she says im better at it, last longer, and that she likes me more anyways, but shes such a good person that she'd say that either way - true or untrue, though ive talked to mutual friends and theyve said the same things, so i think shes being honest (she was so far, right?!)

anyways, i was just wondering if any of guys out there have had to deal with this situation, or something similar. if any ladies have any comments or anything at all to say too, please by all means post!

thanks everyone!

[Still_Dreamin]

thought id post a pic, case anyone was curious?

this is pixies place, after all! haha
:D

[Still_Dreamin]

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[Vicious Tease]

Well, I'm not a guy so I can't really give you the kind of information you are looking for, but .... after looking at your pics .... I'd say you should take her word for it. Doesn't look like you have anything to worry about. :lust:

[Still_Dreamin]

thanks a lot....ya, i hope ure right

i trust her anyways, so whatever. i guess its not a HUGE deal

bad pun? eugh.

[Nubian]

One can never win at the comparison game. I would like to think that each person brings something uniquely different to a relationship which make comparisons moot. As long as she's happy, and it sounds like she is, that's all that matters.

[Lilith]

Talent beats size any day!

[jennaflower]

I just gotta say... no offense intended towards your GF.. but what the HELL was she thinkin? Even tellin you that.. sorry.. but in my own opinion.. some things are better left untold.. comparison to an ex is one such thing.

Secondly... not the quantity that is important.. it is the quality.. not to say that with EXTREME differences (I don't consider an inch extreme) there might be sensational differences, but usually such differences can be compensated by experience and technique.

Just my opinion.. but if she tells you that she is happy with the way things are.. then believe her. :)

[Still_Dreamin]

thanks alot everyone

Nubian - excellent point my friend and a great, near poetic way to look at it

Lilth - this is true, and what everyone is telling me

Jennaflower - it is true...there were things about my ex's that i dared not mention even at our most honest momment, but thinking back now, id rather know then be lied to. then again, ignorance is bliss, right? and also, maybe ure right...a bigger difference might cause sensational differnce, but maybe u cant even tell an inch, when it is in you? who knows... any thoughts? CAN u tell?

that goes out to anyone btw!

[Bad_Shrek]

I Must admit i know what you mean! im only 6.5'' or is it 6.5' i cant remember the whole ' thing! anyway i digress! Dude its quite offputting when your pumping away and all of a sudden you think is she wishing it was her ex's or as big as his? ive had similar situ's and it hard but all you gotta do is say "Shes with me for my personality the other guy must be a bigger dick outside of the bed aswell" (Unless its a good mate) and smile to yourself knowing your the better Person!

Ciao for now!

[denny]

I think Lilith is sincere about talent beating out size. However, ask her if she is enticed by a really big package. Ask her if the "girls" talk about the "big" guys in whispers and grins. Ask her if when she watches her group sex porn, is she turned on by a big guy plundering some fair maiden onscreen. You may not be surprised.

I don't know what brought up the subject but its a shame your gf talks about her ex's penis size. What is she thinking? I am about 8" and had a gf that told me about guys with really big ones she had enjoyed. It's all relative. It was tough on my ego till I put it in perspective and sent her on her way. You don't need to put with insensitivity anymore than the ladies do. Best of luck.

[osuche]

Big is nice...but I don't interview my male friends by asking them their penis size. It's the whole package that counts...and take care not to obsess about the ex too much -- lest you begin to lose your focus in other areas.

As you like her for who she is -- I'm guessing oyu're not comparing her weight or breast size to your exs -- allow her to show you the same courtesy.

Good luck and lighten up!

[Belial]

Originally posted by denny
I think Lilith is sincere about talent beating out size. However, ask her if she is enticed by a really big package. Ask her if the "girls" talk about the "big" guys in whispers and grins. Ask her if when she watches her group sex porn, is she turned on by a big guy plundering some fair maiden onscreen. You may not be surprised.

I don't know what brought up the subject but its a shame your gf talks about her ex's penis size. What is she thinking? I am about 8" and had a gf that told me about guys with really big ones she had enjoyed. It's all relative. It was tough on my ego till I put it in perspective and sent her on her way. You don't need to put with insensitivity anymore than the ladies do. Best of luck.
That's pretty much the sort of thing that causes confusion with me, and I suspect, other guys. I even see it here, sometimes. I see it said that "size doesn't matter", but then see the reactions to pics of big weapons. There's some inconsistency there.

[GingerV]

Oh for crying out loud.

Any man who thinks that women don't get the contradiction between what someone makes comments about and what they really value, well, frankly isn't paying attention. It's something women have to cope with all the time. It's something EVERYONE has to cope with. Welcome to the wonderful world of contridiction that is humanity. What we say we want is rarely what we really want, and it's even less likely to be what we know we need.

Big dicks are nice. Thick dicks are nice. Dicks with that perfect curve that rubs me just right are nice. Dicks that I fit perfectly between my lips and the back of my throat are wonderful. Smootht dicks, veiny dicks. Line 'em up. It's all different, and wonderful.

But I tell you now, every guy I've ever been with has been a hell of a lot more than just a dick with legs. Incredible kisses, strong hands, great legs, and even one guy who had a perfect V shaped back, one who could sing me nearly into an orgasm, and another who could make me laugh no matter what. And all those things contributed to how I felt, and even how good the sex was.

So no, in the grand scheme of things, the size of a guy's dick doesn't matter. The best sex of my life was NOT with the guy with the biggest dick.

But, with that said, I would NEVER mess with the love of my life's head by comparing him with my exes. On any dimension. But certainly not that one, because like ALL guys...he worries about it when he shouldn't. By the same rule, however, I appreciate that I don't have to hear about how gorgeous his old gf's hair was...or how thin her waist was, or how long her legs were, or how perfect her ass looked. That's just curtesy.

If I did meet her, though, and got to make all those comparisons for myself...I hope I'd be able to get over them. Because I know I'm more than the sum of my parts...and that the most important things I bring to any bed are in my heart and mind.

Sorry, I know it's more than my two cents. But I hate to see any guy selling themselves short over something that really doesn't matter. I'll go away now.

[metaphysical700]

My girlfriend told me she'd been with someone with an 8 inch dick and it bugged me a little but..men. so what really. She also told me, the first time she ever had an orgasm was with me. As I remember, the first time she came was intense, it was like she was posessed, so I don't think she was trying to stroke my ego.

In your FACE, big dicks! hehe.

Her sexual past bugs me a little, and for a time, good God I couldn't get it off my mind, and this wasn't long ago. I've just let go now, all it does is make you un-happy and cause tension on your relationship.

[metaphysical700]

forgot to mention, GingerV, a copy of your post ought to be given to most men at birth.

I have fantasies of other women and for a while this made me feel absolutely horrible. Again though, I've let go a little and have accepted you can be in love and want raw lust occasionally. I would never push these fantasies into reality, I don't want that.

So even if women say they do think of larger peni in their dreams, I don't feel it means they will feel unsatisfied with a more averagely sized one.

I really do wish it was the case that a partner's sexual past was not an issue not even thought about. I know it's pathetic but given the choice, I'd probably find it easier to know my girlfriend had never been with anyone. This is probably because I hadn't before her. I always had this idea that if I had sex with someone I like as opposed to love, especially the first time, it would make me feel bad. Though now, I don't think it would.
Maintaining my virginity only mattered while I was a virgin, if I'd had somewhat meaningless sex before being with my girlfriend, it wouldn't bug me.

[quisath]

It's not so much what you have.......................it's how you use it that Counts. If she isn't being truthful then dump her and find someone that will be satisfied with YOU. (and not mention the fact that her EX was WELL ENDOWED)

[Max_theHitMan]

JennaFlower

I just gotta say... no offense intended towards your GF.. but what the HELL was she thinkin? Even tellin you that.. sorry.. but in my own opinion.. some things are better left untold.. comparison to an ex is one such thing.

Secondly... not the quantity that is important.. it is the quality.. not to say that with EXTREME differences (I don't consider an inch extreme) there might be sensational differences, but usually such differences can be compensated by experience and technique.

Just my opinion.. but if she tells you that she is happy with the way things are.. then believe her.


Very true what this lady says. She has her mind in the right place.
I checked your pics and
I myself are a bit bigger (11 1/2 inches and thicker), BUT size doesn´t really matter if you don´t know how to work it. Remenber always that
you have your mouth and your hands. They also can bring wonderful pleasures to a woman if used just right M8.
It´s exactly what @GingerV said, and I quote her...
But I tell you now, every guy I've ever been with has been a hell of a lot more than just a dick with legs. Incredible kisses, strong hands, great legs, and even one guy who had a perfect V shaped back, one who could sing me nearly into an orgasm, and another who could make me laugh no matter what. And all those things contributed to how I felt, and even how good the sex was.

It´s true that the size of a guy's dick doesn't really matter. It´s how you work it in the overall sex-game. I have had alot of experiences with women, and believe me when i say i can make a woman cum with "only" just a word.Just merely talking can make all kinds of reactions arouse a woman. In an orgy, it may be the biggest guy that surprises the ladies, but you have to also surprise them with other things. It´s not all about size, it´s the whole of YOu that makes that something special happen.
Good luck, and don´t give it much thought of what she said.

[Loulabelle]

I just HAD to add my ten cents worth to this thread:

Firstly, I agree with Jenna that your g/f was wrong to break the golden, unwritten code of conduct rule: NEVER reveal your partner's/ex's size to ANYONE. It's a private thing that isn't meant to be shared, and certainly not with a new lover.

However, that being said, size is really not an issue when it comes to great sex. I've had guys with different size cocks in the past, and until Fussy, the best sex I'd had was with the one with the smallest cock.

Yes, Fussy's generously proportioned but that's NOT what makes him the best lover of my life. Hell, with that thing he was doing with his fingers this weekend, I wouldn't have cared if he'd not had a dick at all!!!!! LOL

[denny]

Oh for crying out loud.

I actually enjoyed you ten cents. You are dead on about drawing comparisons. How can you play on someones insecurities any more than that? Hopefully someone is listening.

[Pussy Willow]

SHE'S WITH YOU !!!!!!

If her ex is bigger than you and he's an ex.

Hello, is any of this getting through !!!!

You obviously have what she wants!!!!

[matt31]

you need to tell her that shes lucky that she has a bloke with a 7 inch cock. because the average is way below that, the proper proffesional unbiased average is 5.4 in long by 5in around to say your average would be untrue your large. and even if her ex was 8 inches yhats not much longer its the girth that will please a women.