Is it cheatin..

[jennaflower]

All over the world, men and women are flirting with strangers in chat rooms (and BB's) on the internet. Are they cheating on their real life mates? At what point do you think they go over the line (if there is a line)?

[Lorelei]

Originally posted by jennaflower
All over the world, men and women are flirting with strangers in chat rooms (and BB's) on the internet. Are they cheating on their real life mates?

Of course not. Typing is not cheating.

At what point do you think they go over the line (if there is a line)?

When they meet for sex. (There is a line if they established boundaries in their relationship.)

[Grumble]

I agree with Lorelei I take a good note of her posts i think she is a very intelligent young lady (sexy too)

keep posting Hun

[PantyFanatic]

For once I too totally agree with Lorelei.

[horseman12]

what they said! :0

[Steph]

I disagree. If you're seeking sex elsewhere, be it chat, phone, or real-time, there's probably something lacking in your relationship (unless your SO knows about it). Just my opinion and I don't judge anyone for chatting online while married.

[GermanSteve]

I think this case is a bit compareable to the question if it is cheating having sex with a prostitute.
What do you think?

[skipthisone]

I disagree german steve, having sex with a prostitute is cheating. But having conversations with members of the opposite sex that may be about sexual matters doesnt even come close.

[Scarlett]

A conversation about sexual matters is one thing but having cyber sex is on a whole different level to me. Personally I would consider it cheating, but that's just me :)

[gekkogecko]

Originally posted by jennaflower
At what point do you think they go over the line (if there is a line)?

At the point where they break a promise made to their mate(s). What promises people make is, of course, up to the individuals involved.

[Lorelei]

Talk about the proverbial ball and chain....Jeez, don't get me started!

I'm sayin' no more! :rolleyes:

[Sharni]

To me.....Harmless flirting is ok
But Cybersex is cheating.....unless your partner is aware of it and is fine with it that is

[Grumble]

I flirt all the time, its good humoured and not targeted at sexual relationships. I did not go outside my marriage when it was functional or even for a long time sfter that. When the affection and the sex stopped to a couple of times a year, I very occassionally visited a prostitute. It helped keep my emotions and physical needs in check. I did not do it to cheat but because I was not getting it where I should have been and wanted to.

there are different circumstances where there are shades of grey as well as black and white.

As a rule I dont cybersex these days unless I am particularly close to that person. That means that I feel love for that person. In the last 3 years that has applied to only 2 people.

I have close friendships with a few very attractive pixies ladies, all of whom are in a realtionship. I respect those relationships and support them. I am a romantic at heart and to know two people are in love is wonderful. I have turned down offers from some others and I think I have decent morals.

I have not adjusted to being single and am still coping with the ending of my last realtionship

[incitatus]

I'll have to agree with the three S's here:
Steph
Scarlett
& Sharniqua

...cheating starts in the mind. If a person feels the need for gratification elsewhere (i.e. titty bars, cybersex, etc) there MAY be a need to re-assess the value of his (or her) relationship...

...and TALK ABOUT IT to his (or her) partner.


Lorelei,
Although I disagree somewhat with your opinion, please don't excuse yourself from this discussion -everyone's viewpoint matters...

[incitatus]

...do I sound hypocritical by posting that opinion on an adult picture posting site?

[Steph]

LOL Not at all, incitatus. I introduced my b/f to pixies and he's in the other room putting an IKEA couch together while I surf here.

[looloo]

I am sorry guy's but I am going to have to dissagree with you all. Personally from my own experiences with my current partner ( as u may see by my post's ) I do consider it to be cheating.

But as what point of sex talk or flirting harmlessly and as was meantioned, how do you know when you have crossed the line??
I have had a few debate with other Pixies mebers about this and at the end of the day I beleive that it's no right, it is wrong of a s/o to flirt with another member of the oppisite sex, but at the same time, I do not consider it so dreadfully harmful to be considered cheating

In regards to talking about sex with the oppisite sex. There are two roads that this topic could go down. As, for example in my situation with my partner and the troub;e I was having wih him, I beleive that have a general sex chat with a member of the oppisite sex is harmless and there is nothing to it, but at the same time I beleive that the line is crossed when one party starts going into intimate details of there body, sexual fantasies and to the endless point in where in becomes into cyber/phone sex. Now I beleive that, that is cheating.

I also beleive that when your s/o is talking with another person about sex I do not beleive that it is right for your s/o to go into details of your own sex life for example, what positions do you do?, fave positions? I don't beleive that is cheating but at the same time, I do not approve of it.

[maddy]

Sorry it has to be said... I find it interesting that you don't approve, but you don't leave him either.

[jennaflower]

Wow... a long ago post... so long ago that the only reason I know it was mine was my name attached to it. LOL... Have I really been around that long??? Time flies when you are having fun...

Nice to see that the debate continues....

[looloo]

Sorry it has to be said... I find it interesting that you don't approve, but you don't leave him either.

yes I do see where your comming from as i was expecting someone to come back and say something about this, but since then my s/o and I have since worked through things she is out of the picture as she is o/seas in Malaysia and living there now.
He has has deleted all emails and contact's that he has of hers and even sent her a goodbye letter as I wrote in my last post in which I attached to my last thread if u cared to read........

[LixyChick]

So then looloo (please don't feel attacked except for the fact that you brought this thread up from DEEP in the archives and I feel you are still hurting)...

Answer me this...do you have faith and full trust in him now? And...are you keeping with the pregnancy?

I ask because I care...not to put you on the spot!

PM me if necssary!

*hugs*

[alspals69]

You mean peole have cybersex? I am so shocked... if anyone could possibly think this is acceptable ...and you are female then you can message me on morningsun12345 on yahoo messenger.

Shocked i tell you.

Oh, and don't forget to have your cam ready.

Did i mention i was shocked?